I had a very interesting experience with a
Chinese customer recently in Africa during a business trip. He hosted us in his
office and like any other meeting we went ahead to sit around his desk.
Instead, he guided us to a seating area with an elaborate arrangement for
making fresh green tea (nothing short of a mini kitchen).
Once seated, he proceeded to boil the
serving cups in a pot while preparing a boiling water pot, fresh green tea
leaves in a strainer pot and separate serving bowls. The discussion started
over how they have been performing in the region, the durability of our
products, while he was busy with his preparation.
Through out the one hour long exchange of
ideas and exploring the future of African market, he diligently made sure our
cup was never more than half empty and us being four people, that was quite a
lot of personal attention from one individual.
A few lessons I took away from this
remarkable culture of hosting :
T for Tolerance : While sipping from a
small cup of tea, it is not easy to get excited and be dramatic all the time
focusing on the fact that you cannot physically spill the tea. It invariably
guides you to be calm, receptive and ensure you never end flaring up or make a sudden gesture to drive
a point. It comes off at the end giving a very positive image of patience being
the norm of the discussion.
E for Energy : The slow sipping of the tea
gives you time to think, to distract one self from letting the brawn take over
the brain emotionally, gives you the energy to focus on how to react. More
often than not, when a conversation heads south, we tend to become defensive by
instinct but the warm tea ensures that your balance is not lost in words. With
a touch of positivity, you are able to focus at your strong points rather than
the weaker links of the conversation.
A for Ambience : The gesture of getting
your cup filled with fresh tea by the host every five minutes ensures that the
exchange of respect is being carried from one to another along with the flow of
the green tea. If any inhibitions or points of contention do arise, with the
small act of giving breaking up the build up of any walls, it sets a stage of
acceptance of different views and respect for the time being spent for the discussion.
Next time you want a productive conversation
guaranteed and make your guest feel inspired enough to remember you, serve them
with your best tea!